The Unapologetic Feminine with Fiona McCoss

 Join me and Fiona McCoss, wild feminine facilitator and women’s mentor, as we explore releasing good girl conditioning, embracing your truth, and stepping into embodied, unapologetic feminine leadership. Learn how to reconnect with your body, trust your intuition, and reclaim your sovereignty—even in the small, everyday moments that matter most.

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Welcome back to Radical Reclamation, where we are having conversations about how to return to our sacred, sensual and sovereign selves. I’m Taylor Holiday, a feminine embodiment coach and meditation teacher, and today I am so honored to be joined by Fiona McCoss. Fiona is a women’s mentor and Wild Feminine Facilitator who activates embodied feminine empowerment, liberation, and leadership. Her passion is to walk women back home to the power within their bodies and create transformational spaces that are raw, real, sexy, and sacred.

Welcome, Fiona. Thank you so much for being here today. Thank you for having me.

Absolutely. I am really looking forward to our conversation. Um, today we’re gonna be exploring the unapologetic, feminine, and really, uh. Focusing on releasing good girl conditioning, um, and living from truth, which I know has been quite a journey for me. And I have a feeling everyone watching is going to relate as well.

I would love to, um, invite you to share a little bit about how did you find yourself doing the work that you’re doing now?

Hmm.

I was sharing about this story actually, um, last week. And I mean, I can only say, I mean, probably like where most stories start in the midst of a toxic relationship where you kind of wake up one day and look at yourself in the mirror and realize like, what the hell am I doing with my life?

And that was me at 25. I was in a very toxic relationship, you know, had the perfect life on the outside, the mortgage and the job and the sensible earnings and the man who provided and et cetera. And Benny thought I was just so deeply unhappy and I felt like I was kind of this, you know, Jekyll and Hyde personality of being this like perfect, good girl, Stepford wife when I was at home.

And then I would like go into London where I worked, and then this like kind of distorted. Unhinged me would come out and, you know, did all the smoking, all the drinking, all the, all the fun. And it was like, I just had this really unhealthy embodiment of, of who, I didn’t know who I was at the time. I just felt so split.

I felt so, um. Yeah, I was living a lie. I was living the lie. They told us to, you know, chase the, the corporate ladder and chase the, the metrics and I was so deeply unhappy. And, um, in hindsight I look back and that was really the, the, the initial stirrings of the wild women calling me out of this cage of domestication and cage of.

Just, um, yeah, living in this life where I had just truly lost myself. And, um, yeah, that was, that was, um, well over, yeah, 11 years ago, 20, 25 when I really started to heed to those, the wolf cries. And, um, yeah, it took me on this big journey of, you know, initiating me through. Detoxifying myself through, you know, the system and, and, um, all of the patterns and behaviors that I was, you know, consciously and unconsciously choosing.

I had no idea that I was, I was doing that at the time. And so it was like this big veil, um, you know, all of a sudden just lifted. And um, and I was reading all these books and I was finding all these teachers and I was just like living in the same world. In a different world, if you know what I mean. And I was like, wait, what?

Like this? I could have been living like this all this time. So yeah, that was kind of what set me on the way. Um. Oh. Which I’m sure resonates for many people. ’cause I feel like it always does when I tell the story.

Yes, yes. Thank you so much for sharing. Um, yeah, your, your journey and how it is unfolded. I, when you said it’s like the veil was lifted, I said that to someone recently and it just, when you talked about like, I was in the same world and yet I was in a completely different one and it’s so.

I feel like once you start doing this work and really being brave enough to see your patterns and habits and all of these things that, like you were saying, a lot of them, we are not even aware that we’re we’re caught in them. Right. Until you can step outside and give yourself that space to really, um, be honest about your life and Yeah.

At all, everything you just shared resonates very, very deeply for me. Mm. But I, I love asking women to share these stories because sometimes you don’t know what’s on the other side until you can talk to someone and see like, oh, they’ve been through that too, and now you get to support other women. Right.

I mean, I just think that’s so powerful. So thank you so much for sharing.

I would love for you to share with everyone watching, um. What does unapologetic feminine energy feel like in your body, and how do you see it come alive with the women that you work with?

Hmm. I think what most people think it would feel like would be fire, but actually what I feel like unapologetic energy is more like peace.

Mm, because it’s actually like you’re just the embodiment of your truth, and so everything is in alignment, and so everything is at ease, and then so everything feels peaceful. That’s my. Ultimate, like, you know, an embodied barometer of, of whether I am living in an, an unapologetic and embodied truth. It’s like, am I at ease?

Am I in peace? Am I still striving? Is there unnecessary fire? Like, am I trying to create a fight? Am I, am I looking for something to, you know, because I think. The word unapologetic and um, and same with a wild woman. It’s like, it can, it’s been, um, like ified, let’s say online. And, um, there are these like, which is like beautiful and if that’s like somebody’s expression, but I think there’s also this like.

Striving for, I need to look unapologetic, or I need to go and get all the tattoos, or I need to go and grow up my armpit hair, or I need to go and like, you know, wear a fuck the patriarchy t-shirt and go in a protest or whatever it is to like outwardly show. F you know, I’m so unapologetic, don’t give a fuck.

And it’s like, okay, bru, like brilliant, but, and like what’s happening behind the scenes? You know, when no one’s looking, when you’re in your PJ’s at home, what is that unapologetic expression? You know, like when no one’s looking, when you’ve got no social. Media, anything to prove. It’s like, are you still showing up to be the unapologetic woman that you want to be?

Because we’re so conditioned to seek approval from outside that we, you know, we just externalize everything. We’re constantly projecting our energy outwards and actually, there’s so much about embodied leadership and self-leadership. It’s just like. But when no one’s looking, can you still just say that I am who I am?

I really don’t give a fuck, and I don’t actually need to prove it. I don’t go, need to go on the internet and shout about it, or I don’t need to go and do all these edgy things to prove something. And so for me it just for, you know, if everybody who might struggle with identifying with the word unapologetic or.

They kind of have it as this, like, you know, this benchmark that keeps a milestone that keeps getting further and further away, but it’s like, actually, how can you just be content with being the unapologetic version of yourself now, because like 10 years ago. That like your 10 years ago self would be like, fuck yeah.

Like, oh my God, I didn’t think that this life would be possible. So it is all, you know, our expression is always gonna change and how safe and comfortable and confident in, you know, in how we feel to express ourselves is always gonna change. And I think we just need to. Like, just simplify everything and, and sit in this like peaceful easefulness of like, I don’t give a fuck and I’m good with that.

And it’s not even about not giving a fuck. I’m like simplifying it, simplifying the meaning. But to me, you know, it’s being able to say I’m okay with who I am and I don’t need to prove myself to anybody else.

Yes, yes, yes, yes. I love that you shared how, because I know when I first heard terms like, you know, wild woman epo, unapologetic, that you’re right, it does seem like it has to be very outwardly focused.

And again, it, that’s how you express, that’s beautiful. More power to you. But if not, that’s beautiful too. And it’s really not about, um. How other people view you and do they know that you’re unapologetic? Do they know that you feel free in yourself? It’s like, do you know? I realized that I was not asking myself questions like, who am I?

It was always through someone else’s lens, right? What do I actually want? Oh, okay, well, what do, what should I want? You know, all that good girl conditioning that we’ve been talking about, and so I love that It’s like, it’s about finding how you. Actually are, like you said in your PJs at home, like, what is your truth when no one’s watching?

When you’re not trying to prove and you’re not trying to be something else. It’s like, who are you actually? And I always like to say it’s, um, I found it’s a return. I used to think I had to be, to be healed, whatever that means. Um, I had to be something different. And it’s like, no, it’s about. Actually returning and remembering who you have always been and were maybe afraid to actually show or didn’t even know who you actually were.

So I love that, that reminder that, yeah, it can look like so many different things, but that feeling of ease, because you’re right. I think a lot of people, when you hear unapologetic woman and wild woman, you don’t think ease, but it’s like, no, if you’re really aligned, ah, that’s gonna be coming through too.

Yeah, because that’s your authentic expression. And when we’re in that authentic expression, that’s truth and that is the ease. And otherwise, you know, it’s, it’s exhausting. Trying to be someone that you’re not is exhausting trying to, you know, be the good girl or trying to be the, the poster girl for the wild women all the time.

And, you know, constantly trying to prove that you can do, say, you know, you know. Trying to, to kind of push your boundaries and stretch those edges when maybe that’s actually not what needs to happen in that moment. It’s actually, you just need to listen to your authentic self, and which doesn’t sound as sexy or authentic.

Self does not sound as cool as the unapologetic, feminine or woman, which I get, but ultimately they’re like the same thing.

Absolutely. And. I think earlier you said something about like simplifying, and that’s come through in some other conversations I’ve been having recently about like a lot of the practices that we do to become that unapologetic version of ourselves.

And for me, a lot of that is meditation. I love meditation. It could be movement, dance, but a lot of those things are very simple. Right. They’re ancient and we’re so constantly busy and fed with all this extra noise, and it’s like, no. If we can get back to like simplicity, that’s how you really remember who you are.

It’s not hearing all these things. It’s not being on Instagram all the time and asking everybody their opinion. It’s like, no, it’s actually being able to like be with yourself.

Yeah,

but that’s, it sounds so easy. Just be with yourself and it’s like, it’s actually incredibly hard. Yeah.

There’s so much resistance.

And you know, as, as we’re speaking to simplicity in the other hand, I also think. It’s a journey and back into sensitivity and sensation because we are so numb and we are so externally focused and we are so externally projected and seeking, you know, validation from outside of ourselves that we have to sensitize ourselves to know who the fuck we are.

We have to sensitize ourselves to know what it feels like to be in our body, to know what our truth is, to know what our voice sounds like, to know what our desires are to know. X, Y, z. And so when we aren’t sensitized and when we’re still walking around the world with all this armor and with this numbness, like of course we’re gonna keep seeking those, you know, those rough edges or the spiciness or the, you know, the exotic and kind of, you know, lean into the fire a little bit more and get it maybe a little bit burnt because we can’t actually feel, rather than actually knowing that maybe this expression is enough for someone and it’s okay that it looks different.

To the expression that’s coming out of this woman and expression that coming outta this woman. And there’s no one size fits all. And I think this is also something that we’re really fed in. Um, I mean it’s kind of like a paradox or you know, in one sense it’s like we’re kind of shown on social media and you know, shown through.

The narrative of like, you know, there are so many different ways to be, and then we’re also shown kind of how everyone is kind of turning into the same thing, like how there’s so many cliques, there’s so many like trends. You know, all the, all the stuff that’s happening with like ai, everybody’s starting to sound the same.

All the shit people are putting in their faces, everyone’s starting to look the same. That actually, it’s like we need to just like. Fuck all that off and just simp, and this is where the simplification and sensitization comes kind of in the same dance to just be like, can I just be okay with me? If I lost every single tool, my house burnt down, and if it was just like me in the woods, me in the desert, or wherever it was, what would be my authentic expression in that moment?

Hmm.

Yes. Uh, I am just really enjoying this conversation. So much, so many beautiful reminders that I know I need to hear constantly.

I mean, me too. I’m, I’m not like preaching, like I’m perfect one either. It’s helpful to name it too, because like you and I are both on this journey as well. You know, just because you’re a host in this beautiful summit, and just because you know I’m here talking about the things that I know, it doesn’t mean that we’re above and beyond any of this ourselves, and this is the beauty of embodiment.

It’s like a lifelong practice, and we get to be constantly humbled. It’s like, what’s that saying of like, the more you know, the more you realize you don’t know. Yes. I find that

to

be very true. Yeah. And then it’s the same with, you know, each, you know, when you come into practice or kind of, you know, sit with your journal and you’re writing, you’re like, oh wow.

And you know, you see your, all your patterns are still there and the shadows are distill and you’re like, okay, we still got some work to do and it’s fine and it’s good and it means we’re human. And I think this is also what needs, what is part of the unapologetic expression is like, um, that’s okay. I don’t need to be, you know, this, this perfection is such a construct.

There’s no space for perfection in, in unapologetic expression. The two just, there’s not space for them to exist together. So we, that’s a real one to unhook from. Yeah. In the psyche and in that good girl patterning is like, we do not have to be perfect. There’s no one that we have to perform for. There’s no one that we have to, there’s no big daddy that we have to like, you know, get that gold star for, we just get to stumble through life being messy humans, and that’s okay.

Yes, yes. I, I think that is another, like, really important reminder that I, I used to think, okay, well, I, I moved. Through this pattern and I’ve released this or I’ve unlearned this, you know, whatever word you want to use. And, and so now I’m here, I’m at the top of the mountain and it’s like, no, no, there’s still more to learn and I.

I try to be curious about it. Like, okay, I’ve moved through this and now that’s doesn’t have its grip on me like it did at one point, and now, oh, okay, here’s another edge. Here’s another thing, like as I’ve been building my business over the last few years, like I’m really like an edge seeker now. Like, okay, what’s this next thing that it’s like, Ooh, this feels a little scary.

Like I don’t know if I can fully do it. And it’s like, that’s where you need to go. That’s if you can be brave enough, like get curious. Don’t have to go all in, you know, like. Be mindful, take care of yourself. But it’s like, oh, that’s, that’s something I need to explore further. And, um, I think there can be beauty in that too, even though sometimes I’m like, damn,

yeah,

where’s the, where’s the exit?

I don’t wanna, I’ve been working really hard and now it’s like, no. Yeah, but that’s, I always, one of my friends and I, we talk about how, like, if I. Look 10 years into the future, and I’m like, oh my gosh, I’m the exact same person that I was back then. Like, that to me is like, I can’t No, no. Thank you. So I’m okay with it’s, it’s still evolving because that’s what life is about to me, is Yeah, it’s changing, it’s growing, it’s learning and unlearning and having all these amazing aha moments where you’re like, oh, now it makes sense.

Yeah. You know, that just building that awareness, I think is so, so powerful. Mm-hmm.

And having the grace to weather the storms and the bits that aren’t so comfortable because it’s, you know, it’s like. It’s like life. We can’t just choose the sugarcoated, the yummy stuff. It’s like that’s, that shit’s really good.

But also we have to be, and this is like, you know, we have to be okay with the dark. We have to be okay with the dark feminine and the death and the pain and the void and the stickiness and like when we lean in, when you dare like to lean into edges and dare to keep choosing to evolve. As you say, like sometimes we’re like, oh no, I, no, take it back.

And it’s like, you know, you have to just you. But that’s what builds resilience is, and that’s, you know. You learn so much more about yourself and, and sometimes, you know, maybe we bow out and we go back in another time, or we wait a year and we, we, we reenter. But sometimes it’s like, okay, shit, I gotta sit in the void for six months and like, whoa, this.

Sucks. And it’s hard and I’m questioning everything and I’m like, when’s this gonna end? And then suddenly you see like a little light at the end of the tunnel and you’re like, oh my God.

Okay. It’s still there. Yes, yes, yes. Yeah. And I, I always have to remind myself that we can’t appreciate the light without the dark.

And I know for me, the dark is where I. Do so much learning and like you were saying, grieving and there’s death and there’s shedding and you know, you’ve gotta have, it’s, it’s that duality that, again, for most of us is very, is very hard because we, we like the light, but also there is, um, there’s creation and growth in the dark, which I really did not understand until the last couple of years.

, I’m curious, in your work, um, with your clients, where do you often see that good girl conditioning we’ve been talking about, um, still operating. Even if someone has maybe done a lot of the somatic work, the healing work, where is that still maybe popping up?

Um, hmm. Let me think about this. I mean, I’m thinking of one client really recently in particular. So I work just randomly, not even that, I, um, maybe it’s just ’cause of, you know, the age that I am in, the women that come to me, but I often work with a lot of moms and, um, and sometimes what presents itself often is, you know, where.

The, the woman or the mom has really lost her identity to being like the perfect mom. And I can see that, you know, with a little bit more perspective and just how, you know, it can be so easy to lose themselves, their desire, their um, you know, their boundaries, their voice, their connection with their partner maybe.

And um, it’s kind of like this re. Packaging of like, but I have to be, you know, the perfect housewife and I want to be the perfect mom, and I want to be there for my kids and I need to cook the meals, and I need to go shopping and I need to do all this. And it’s like, no wonder you’re exhaust exhausted and there’s this, you know, like the martyr might show up and all of these that I kind of shadows and resentment build and.

You know, it’s just a, it is a shame because of the way that, you know, we’re raising families nowadays. We don’t have that village, you know, support. So it’s, you know, sometimes you really have to work with, well, what, you know, what do you have available and how can we create more spaciousness for you to just come back to the original woman that you are.

And to start to create more time and space to actually develop that autonomy, almost like, again, from scratch because you are having to have, you’re operating in life now with, with so many different demands. Um, but. You know, that would maybe be one example. Um, and I see a lot too in the women that I work with who run businesses, um, in wanting maybe to become more visible or wanting to take up more space online or wanting to, um, grow even from like, you know, zero to two years.

Like really like fledgling at the beginning. They get stuck even before they’ve done anything because it’s like, I really want this vision of me 10 years down the line. But, but they’re like, but I’m so afraid to show up and say something on Instagram and then somebody told me I’m wrong. I hear that so often.

And it’s like, you know, really helping them develop like that resilience to be like, if you wanna be a leader and if you wanna have a voice online, if you wanna show your work. You’re going to have to be unliked sometimes, like you’re going to have to navigate the trolls.

You’re

going to have to navigate maybe some, some, you know, some conversations.

But I’m like, honestly, the likelihood that somebody is going to come and challenge you. Is very low, but it’s like this, this crazy fear that they have. This like imposter syndrome just running rife that keeps women like just so stuck in this good girl of like, I’m so afraid to even open my mouth in case I get something wrong that I’m willing almost to just like put all of my dreams on hold and just slam on the brakes before I’ve even gone anywhere.

’cause I’m petrified. Of, of not being seen as the Google of not being seen as perfect, of not being seen as having it all together. So I’d say, I’d say probably I, that is what presents itself the most in, in my clients, I would say is, is, is that? Yeah.

Yes. Oh my gosh. The imposter syndrome is who it can be.

Um. Really aggressive as you were saying that I was like, mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yes. And this, this need to, I used to feel like I had to know everything, you know, like to be a good coach and well, what if they’ve had this experience that I’ve never had? And it’s like, well, they’ve had, they’ve had a thousand experiences that you have not had that you probably never will, and.

It’s not about that, right? It’s about supporting them and seeing their truth. But yeah, the wanting to get it right and wanting to be perfect and oh my gosh, I, yes, I, I have moved with that. Still do sometimes, but I always, um. I always try to remind myself like, if this is really on your heart and you are dedicating all of this time and energy to this, like it’s for you.

Like that’s that intuition that’s like this is, this is what you’re supposed to be doing, and the fact that. It’s scary, does not mean you’re not capable. I used to think, oh, there’s fear and I can’t do it. And it’s like, oh, I mean, fear. I have worked with her a lot. We are becoming besties ’cause she’s not going anywhere.

And I’m just like, okay girl, let’s go. Yeah, take her with,

but that is, that was something that was really, really hard for me. And I think it’s something that’s not talked about, you know, like. If you’re gonna do something, then it should just, you shouldn’t be afraid to do it. And it’s like, no, actually most of the things that you really want are probably scary.

Yeah. And that, that is, that’s okay. That’s part of being a human being. Um, and like you were saying before about connecting with our sensitivity, um, sometimes sensitivity can be really uncomfortable.

Yeah.

And that doesn’t mean it’s bad or wrong. It’s, it’s giving you information is what I always try to remind myself, even if it’s not information that you ask for.

Yeah. And it’s, it’s why I kind of, I really dislike when people use the word fearless as a. As like a good thing. Yeah. You know, and it’s like, oh, I’m this fearless wild woman. I was like, no, but we need fear. Like fear keeps us safe. We don’t need fear all the time. So that it inhibits us from our expression.

Yeah. But healthy fear is what’s gonna keep us alive. And so it’s, and you know, kind of like rewriting the fearless out of the, out of the narrative and, and bringing like. Vulnerability in and, and making that. Okay. And you know, as you were saying, it’s like it’s okay that we feel fear ’cause it’s there to tell us something.

And sometimes it shows us something that we’re not, we’re not maybe not ready to receive. But the same with vulnerability. And I think this is, you know, what really needs to be. Kind of redefined and through the lens of, you know, the, the empowered woman. It’s like, you know, I think the word vulnerable in a weak can be synonymous.

And actually they’re not.

No.

So we need to be okay with, you know, especially when we develop our sensitivity and especially when we, you know, for all of those, um, you know, I have a lot of women in my space who, you know, we kind of call them the quiet leaders who, who aren’t there to just like. Make a shit ton of noise and like make a massive scene and be hyper visible.

But it’s like, but they’re there with really powerful missions and they’re there to like shake the foundations, but in a really quiet, gentle way. And I think there’s so much space for like bringing, you know. These, the kind of the soft leadership in and the feminine leadership that doesn’t have to be so aggressive or, so what people think of is the unapologetic or over provocative and you know, which I love all those things, but it’s not.

I don’t love them when they’re not true for someone’s expression. I don’t love them when they, when somebody’s just trying to try it on for size ’cause they think that’s what they should be saying or doing to get the followers of the clients or the, or make the impact. But it’s like, actually again, it’s, you know, sensitizing yourself to, and simplifying everything to be like, who am I?

What is my mission? What is my message? What is the frequency? That I’m here to share and to speak and to operate in, because that’s where you’ll meet your people. And then as you’re saying, you don’t then need to know all of the answers, because if people aren’t gonna come to you for things you don’t know, they’re gonna come to you for things you do know.

And it’s like, again, this reminder, which is this, you know, this kind of healing motto for the good girl is like, I am enough. Like I know enough, I am enough. And that is like, that is literally, you know, the truth. And I think when we can just really rest in that, then there’s no reason why we can’t have wait lists of clients.

There’s a reason why we can’t go out there and do, you know, exceptional work and you know, create transformation in the world when we just like really trust our embodied wisdom and trust that we know and trust that we have all of these women out there who are gonna choose to come and step into our spaces.

Because it’s the resonance piece. You don’t have to go and persuade them. We don’t have to convince them that we have all the answers. ’cause no one ever does. And the people that come to you, will, will, will come because there’s this like, there’s this trust and energy.

Yes. Yeah. I know that. Um, you know, in the, especially in the embodiment space, it can be really hard to.

To understand, okay, well what’s my kind of secret sauce and how do I express? Because yeah, there, there are a lot of women who are very, you know, out there, which is great if that, again, like you said, if that’s you, and I was like, okay, well if they’re all doing that, then should I, and it’s like, no, because that’s not me.

And, and there’s someone that needs what I am and there’s someone that needs what those women are. Right. Like you were saying, like there’s, there’s space for all of us, and I think the more variety there is, um, that’s really powerful for other women to see that mirrored back that, oh, it doesn’t just look like this.

Mm-hmm. Um, and finding, yeah. What, what feels good and natural to you. Again, it’s, it sounds like it could be easy. Yeah. But I have found that it can be a journey, but it’s so. It’s so worth it. I feel like I know myself so much more now, and definitely still learning, but it’s a really beautiful thing to feel at home in your own being in your own body.

And like you were saying, that I am enough. Whew. There were times in my life where I would be like, Nope. And now it’s like, uh, like hearing those words was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. So what a beautiful reminder for everyone watching that. Yeah, it’s all about finding what’s natural and true for you. It does not have to look like any certain thing.

And honestly, I think if you can feel into it, that’s how you know. And you mentioned that earlier, that it’s not what it looks like. It’s what it feels like, right? Yeah. That peace, that ease, that alignment, um, yeah.

And the universe will show you signs when it’s not. If you’re like, I can’t find the piece, is this piece, look around you.

If everything is falling to shit, the universe will be throwing so many signs at you to get you into alignment. That’s how you’ll be recentered back into your piece, and that’s how you’ll be, you know, reflected back if you are in your authenticity or not.

Yes.

Oh my. If anyone’s like, how do I know? It’s like, you’ll know.

The universe will, sometimes I just laugh because I’m like, okay, like message received, like whether it’s with my Oracle deck or just like a divine download, I’m like, okay. All right. Got it. Thank you. Yeah. I was really trying to make one thing work and it, the universe is like, no, sweetie, that’s not, no, that’s not for you.

Yeah. Lovingly. No. Yes, so. True. So, so true. Oh my goodness. Um, well before we wrap up, I would love to ask one more question, um, for women who are listening who feel like. Okay. I really want to be more unapologetic. I wanna live more for my truth. Um, but there’s also, like we were talking about that fear, that contraction.

Um, what’s one place that you would invite them to begin? If they’re like, okay, this conversation, like, I’m, I’m liking what I’m hearing, what advice, what, how would you have them begin? Hmm.

I mean, you know, with everything, we wanna go baby steps, we wanna titrate, you know, we never want to run before we can walk. And so it’s finding maybe a little edge or a little, um. Space that you might want to challenge yourself to show up differently. So you might notice that in your relationship or in a friendship group that you’re putting a mask on, or, um, you know, you, you might look in your wardrobe and realize that, oh my God, all my clothes are gray and none of these clothes actually express the vitality that I feel in my body.

But I’ve been told that I need to, you know, not that it’s about external expression, but just finding a really. Simple way to tap back into, um, who do I want to be in this world and how do I want to be seen? And that might look like I love power dressing. You know, it’s like you’re not dressing for anyone else, but it’s like you’re dressing for your authentic self and you fucking, for me, it’s like a dash of red lipstick.

Go fucking walk down the street and notice how many people will like look at you because it’s not that you’re in. The outfit, it’s that you are in the outfit feeling like your best self, your most authentic self, your unapologetic self. So you know, whether it’s having that, um, that honest conversation with a friend or whether it’s, you know.

Bringing something to your partner that really needs to be brought up. But finding something to, and it will be spiky and it will, you know, maybe bring up the fear that we’ve been mentioning, but after you’ve done it, there will be this like wash of peace and that will be the sign to you to be like, okay.

That was me that came out. That was me that got expressed.

Uh, I love that. Yes. Such a powerful reminder. To start small, right? It’s all about, um, really being in tune with your body and the messages it’s giving you. But also, yes, there’s such an amazing feeling. It’s like when I check something off of my list, I’m like, yes.

Like I did that for me. And what felt like, oh my gosh, can I do this? Do I dare? When you are like, yeah, I did dare. It’s so. Awesome. Yeah, like there is nothing, I’m like getting sensations just thinking about it because that is something I’ve been doing over and over and over and it is a practice, but it’s so, I mean, every little step that you take means so much.

It all adds up. So what a beautiful, um, yeah. Little, little gift to leave everyone with to um, yeah, to see where’s that next little edge that doesn’t feel. Crazy, wild out of control, but it’s something that, you know, hmm, this is gonna bump me to that next place, um, to bring me back into alignment. I love that.

Thank you so much.

And one thing I would add, just because as I was thinking, for anybody who’s like, I wanna do that on social media or something, one thing I really encourage anybody who wants to bring that test out into, like, you know, the medias. On, like remove any followers, any family members, any random person next door, any high school, whoever that is impacting the way that you are showing up because.

They know they can leave. You can make them leave so that you can have the space and find safe to express who you are. ’cause I think that’s also somebody you know a lot of when people say, oh, I’m afraid of such and such, seeing. You have the control to remove these people. And so rather than them censoring you, you can just remove them so that you can show up unapologetically.

So also, if that’s something, um, that is keeping you back, then I really, really recommend deleting everybody that is keeping you small.

Absolutely. That is reclaiming your sovereignty. And I think sometimes it’s easy for us to forget that. While there are many things in life we can’t control. There are things that we can, I don’t like to use the word control, but um, you know Yeah.

If they’re keeping you small, absolutely not. Bye. Like, it’s unnecessary. I love any, anything that is unnecessary in my life. I am, I, I tell my friends, I’m like, I’m curating my life right now. And it’s like, if I don’t need it, whether it’s clothes, people, whatever, like buy. Yeah. Give yourself more space to be you.

Give yourself that breathing room. Yeah. Um, so yes, I absolutely, I have, I have done that and it felt really great. Yeah. Such a cleanse. Lemme go through here. Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Yeah. Making me feel like an imposter. Nope. Click. Yeah. Oh my goodness. I love it. All right. Well, huh Fiona, thank you so much for this beautiful conversation.

And before we go, I’d love for you to, um, share a little bit about the free gift that you’re gonna be offering. Um, everyone watching?

Yeah. So I have a, um, a three day masterclass series called Body LED Revolution, and it’s, you know, it’s for any woman who considers herself a leader. A cha, a change maker, chain breaker.

Anybody who wants to get a little bit of fire up or us to, to do things differently, um, this is a really fun, um, activating, provocative, um. Inspiring three days, uh, to help you remember the power of being a woman and the change that you can affect in this world by remembering how to live as a woman, um, with your female physiology and how you are uniquely, um, created to basically change the world.

Oh,

I cannot wait to check that out. Yeah, I’m like, yes. Beautiful. Thank you so much. And the link to Fiona’s gift will be below our interview so that you can absolutely check that out. Um, and for everyone watching, I also would like to personally invite you to my upcoming workshop, the Sovereign Return.

We’ll, I’ll be really supporting you in coming back into your body like we were talking about, and restoring your inner sovereignty so that a lot of those old roles, the self abandonment, the good girl conditioning can gently start to be released. So the link to that will also be below our interview. And again, Fiona, thank you so much.

What a beautiful conversation today.

Yeah, I loved it. Thank you so much, Taylor, for having me. It’s been great.

Yes. Oh. All right everyone. I will see you next time for Radical Reclamation.